Saturday, October 09, 2021

JOY OF HAVING JESUS

Francis of Assisi was born rich but chose to be poor. In the first 25 years of his life he was a care-free young man. He was handsome, pampered, spoiled, ambitious and vain. But one day, God touched his heart. He was moved to change. His imprisonment and illness caused him to re-evaluate his life and his values.

Suddenly, he lost interest in the worldly life. From a lover of party and pleasure, he decided to give up his possessions. Literally he became a beggar. But there was something different about Francis. He was poor but he was also joyful. He celebrated life! He had nothing, yet he lived as if he had everything. He wanted to mirror the lifestyle of Jesus.

Unexpectedly, he changed the world by his example. He was just a lay person. He introduced a revolutionary way of thinking: anyone can follow the Gospel. One can live simply. Christ can be your joy and he can fill your life!

Today’s gospel (Mk 10:17-30) presents a rich, young man. He felt something was missing in his life. Wanting to do more, he asked Jesus’ advise. But he was sad and hurt by Jesus’ challenge. He was so attached to his riches. He had no courage to give up his wealth. He had little love for Jesus.

We can learn 3 lessons from this young man.

Hesitant. Like the rich, young man we can also be hesitant to follow Christ. We tend to calculate and measure our love. We can be overwhelmed by fear over the future. We lack courage. We make excuses and alibis. We can be reluctant like Moses when God called him to be a leader of his people and was told to go back to Egypt. His first reaction was to hesitate. Feeling he was not qualified enough, he asked God to look for someone else. He doubted his giftedness. But God wanted him to shift from fear to faith. God assured him: “I will be with you!” We need to pray to overcome our hesitation.

Hard. The rich, young man found it hard to follow Christ. He realized he had to give up the things he most loved and cherished. He was hurt by the challenge of the Lord to sell what he had and give the money to the poor. He was not yet ready. He had no guts to obey. Indeed, following Jesus can be hard and painful.

A story is told about Teresa of Avila. One day, travelling to one of her convents, she fell of a horse while crossing a stream. She lost her balance and was almost carried away by the strong current. It cost her a sprain on her foot. In prayer she complained to the Lord: “Lord, why do you make it so difficult for me. I’m doing your work. Why do you need to make me suffer?” Jesus answered: “Don’t complain my daughter, that is how I treat my friends.” Teresa replied: “Now I know why you have so few of them.”

Huge love. The secret in following Jesus is to have a huge love for him. We need to have a big, large, enormous heart for Jesus. His demands are difficult. He requires that we love him with all our heart, soul, strength and will. He wants nothing less – to dedicate our lives to him! To love him more than anything else. When our love is small, we calculate and hesitate. We will give up when the going gets rough. But if our love is big, we can stay even at the foot of the cross. Love makes us do even the impossible. With such a love, Jesus becomes our joy because we know he can fill up our lives.


Saturday, October 02, 2021

COMMITMENT TO LOVE

Imagine an 85-year-old man insisting on taking his wife’s hand everywhere they go. When asked why his wife keeps looking away he responds: “because she has Alzheimer’s.” When asked if his wife will worry if he lets her go? The old man replies: “she doesn’t remember anything. She doesn’t know who I am anymore. She hasn’t recognized me for a year.”

Asked why he has continued to guide her every single day though she doesn’t recognize him? He simply smiles and says: “she may not know who I am; but I know who she is – she is the love of my life!”

In today’s gospel, Jesus teaches us about the essence of marriage. Prompted by a question on divorce, he clarifies that Moses permitted it as a concession for the “hardness of the human heart.” But if we were to go back to God’s original, wonderful purpose of marriage and the family, it is meant to reveal the visible face of an invisible God who is love (Pope Francis). The Sacrament of marriage is the icon of God’s unconditional love for us.

The challenge of marriage is to love one another. That is how God intended it to be. God’s ideal marriage is a union that is binding until death; a commitment for life. Thus marriage requires a unique kind of love that reflects God’s own committed love for each of us. Love is the root and firm foundation of marriage.

I have an acronym on L.O.V.E that entails 4 things on how to put love in action in the married state:

L: Listen sincerely. The 1st Reading (Gen 2:18-24) reveals one of man’s deepest need – connection and intimacy. Loving entails listening. Listening is an act of love. It is the basic ingredient of acceptance, trust and respect. When you listen, you learn more about the other person creating deeper connection. Listening answers one of man’s deepest longing for connection and intimacy.

O: Openness. Be open to each other earnestly. Openness requires humility in accepting one’s vulnerability. Transparency is necessary in any worthwhile relationship. Being sincere and honest in sharing your dreams, plans, problems even your financial statements. In this culture of openness, there will be a communion of persons. Wise couples do not allow secrets to get in the way to build a loving and joyful marriage.

V: Visibility. Be visible to each other constantly. Be there for each other. Be present. Don’t be a ghost. Spend quality time. Make your presence felt by communicating, talking, chatting, make a phone call, doing chores and taking home care responsibilities. Your visible physical presence clearly means incarnating love in the home.

E: Endure patiently whatever happens. Love with intentionality. Creating a home and a family does not happen by chance. You have to make that commitment work for it to last. Relationship last not because they were destined to last. Relationship last long because two people made a choice to keep it; fight for it and work for it.

 

Lourdes Shrine Fiesta - February 11

Lourdes Shrine Fiesta - February 11
Archdiocesan Shrine of Our Lady of Lourdes Parish

Installation as Parish Priest

Installation as Parish Priest
The Parish Priest with USC Elem Batchmates

After the Installation Rites

After the Installation Rites
Archbishop Jose Palma with Fr. Provincial, Family and Parishioners

Lourdes Parish Salesian Community 2016

Lourdes Parish Salesian Community 2016
L-R: Fr. Gino, Fr. Denden, Fr. Randy, Fr. Cesar and Fr. George